How Does it feel to be “Alone”?

In today’s world, everyone is busy rushing and earning the bread and butter for themselves and their loved ones that they forget there are somethings that money can’t buy. Which is, the love, support, care and the sense of belongingness which comes from people who assure you, that “No matter what happens in your life, you can fall on them. You can always depend on them”

I agree that showing love does not mean displaying it everyday or proving it to the loved one with big gestures that you love them. In this busy life, all you need is to take out sometime for that special person. That’s because if they know you, they understand your workload and your lifestyle, but even if you just take out a little time out for them, it’ll mean the world to them. This is not just for them, but it is also for you, it also affects your mental being as well. You must be wondering, how? Let’s get you the answers..

How does any of this affect “ME”?

You’re busy working every single day, you have tons of work to do, from waking up in the morning, doing household chores, helping your parents, getting to work on time, listening to your boss’s demands, getting gifts for your sister and the list goes on..

You may feel worked up, and there will be a point where you will feel mentally exhausted. Let’s be real, “You can’t keep going on and on right?” And after all that, we tell ourselves, “I’m so done with life! I can’t handle it!” You’re right, you can’t, that’s where self-care comes in handy, you need to take a break, because then when you feel refreshed, you get working feeling more refreshed and you can work more efficiently.

That’s about how you feel, and what about the person you love, you just left behind? No one thought about that, right?

How does it feel to be, LONELY?

After working so hard all day every day, don’t you feel at times there is no one to hear you out? Or no one around you for helping you solve your problems? Don’t you wish, that someone could just be with you, the physical presence of someone just matters so much that even if they don’t do anything, it still does the job.

That’s because you don’t feel neglected, ignored or isolated. This is because we are human’s we need social interactions in our lives. We NEED to be around people who understand us, or just feel our pain, be it mental or physical. Everyone need’s ‘their person’. If we don’t get these things, we may feel neglected, ignored or isolated.

You might have noticed that I referred to Grey’s Anatomy where Christina and Meredith consider each other as ‘their person’, the analogy is correct, this ‘person’ can be anyone, doesn’t have to be a family member, it can be your friend or your partner, whoever it is, you want this person to be at your side whenever you need them.

I can keep going on about how does it actually feel to be lonely, but I may not be able to describe the feeling, if you really want to understand, please go and ask an older person in your family, for instance your grandparents. They are usually the ones who really know what it REALLY feels like, they will be able to tell you accurately.

Okay.. So What Should I Do?

Now that we have finally realized our mistakes and want to improve ourselves, here are some steps that you can take that can improve your mental health being and also the people around you, now you won’t have any guilt and can also focus on your work:

• Organize your time on a weekly basis, get some time off work so that you also take the rest you need
• If you can’t meet your loved ones, at least give them a call, so you both know you have each other. I am sure they’ll understand
• Prioritize spending time with others on special occassions, remember work keeps going on, but family and loved ones should deserve some attention on some days at least!!
• Its good to reciprocate your love sometimes, being expressive about your emotions won’t make you weak, it’ll let them know that they are important you and even if you are not able to spend that much time with them.

Always remember, feeling the need of having someone in your life is not a sign of weekness. That’s because if you don’t require anyone for sometime, you will be fine, but slowly, all the negativity and the feeling of being neglected will make you feel isolated and will affect your mental and physical health in the long run. So, if you want to stay happy and maintain a good relationship with others around you, a little effort from your side won’t hurt right?